Thursday, November 10, 2005
the old verse "love is patient, love is kind blah blah" is it really true? don't think so. what are the chances that u will find someone whom you love and truly loves you as well? love i guess, involves jealousy, disappointment, heartbreaks. sometimes me and some pals would see a couple and think "i don't think they are even compatible for each other" but yet they are still together? yeah this is the puzzling effect of our hearts.
everyone of us desires something.and we hope to find in our partner that something that is so essential, probably thats how love works. in every broken relationship, there's always something that has gone terribly wrong, like the guy having feelings for another girl, or the girl losing feelings. such things are sad but true. i wonder if there'll ever be a "guarantee" that u know u are safe in the relationship or not.
figured that everyone has had at least once when they had fallen in love or loved someone. like everything seemed to be perfect within their crush, like the chinese saying "ai wu ji wu" (yeah my chi improved ^^) only to find out, that the girl has no feelings for him. yeah the disappointment is overwhelming, when you truly love someone but find out that you're not meant to be together.and it hurts even more when he/she already loves somebody else. but there are couples who found out that they like each other. from wad i observed throughout my life, some obstacle or misunderstanding appears and poof. they are gone. without even having a heart to heart talk with each other. and u wonder," why should they be together in the first place? why can't i hav the chance? perhaps if it were me this wouldnt happen" Letting go. my favourite quote about letting go inevitably, came from Episode 3 Revenge of the sith.
"train yourself to let go of everything you fear to lose" by yoda. "the fear of loss is a path to the dark side,attachment leads to jealousy,the shadow of greed"
[The Old Man and His Shoe]
One day an old man boarded a bus. As he was going up the steps, one of his shoes slipped off. The door closed and the bus moved off so he was unable to retrieve it. The old man calmly took off his other shoe and threw it out of the window. A young man on the bus saw what happened, and could not help going up to the old man and asking, "I noticed what you did, sir. Why did you throw out your other shoe?" The old man promptly replied, "So that whoever finds them will be able to use them."
The old man in the story understood a fundamental philosophy for life - do not hold on to something simply for the sake of possessing it or because you do not wish others to have it. We lose things all the time. The loss may seem to us grievous and unjust initially, but loss only happens so that positive changes can occur in our lives. We should not always assume that losing something is bad, because if things do not shift, we'll never become better people or experience better things. That's not to say of course that we only lose "bad" things; it simply means that in order for us to mature emotionally and spiritually, and for us to contribute to the world, the interchange between loss and gain is necessary. Like the old man in the story, we have to learn to let go. The world had decided that it was time for the old man to lose his shoe. Maybe this happened to add momentum to a series of events leading to a better pair of shoes for the old man. Maybe the search for another pair of shoes would lead the old man to a great benefactor. Maybe the world decided that someone else needed the shoes more. Whatever the reason, we can't avoid losing things. The old man understood this. One of his shoes had gone out of his reach. The remaining shoe would not have been much help to him, but it would be a cherished gift to a homeless person desperately in need of protection from the ground. Hoarding possessions does nothing to make us or the world better. We all have to decide constantly if some things or people have run their course in our lives or would be better off with others. We then have to master the courage to give them away.]
thats one of the most meaningful stories i ever came across. and credit goes to melody for sending me this email. =D letting go..is easier said than done. what abt fate. if you're meant to be with someone, you will be with him/her. some may accept and believe in fate, some may brush it off as bullshit. all depends on you, but it does have a truth, u are meant to be with someone else, whether its now or next time. unless you're someone who plays with others' feelings i guess -.-
i know of a friend who recently broke up with his girlfriend, and he refused to study for his o lvls unless she patched up with him. my pri sch classmate. u really wonder the crazy things ppl do when they are in love. sad sight. only he can make a choice when he doesnt listen to others.
why did god make humans this way. when you're in love, you do think "oh man she doesnt seem interested in the conversation" "she doesnt even care abt whether i die or not" "shes taking me for granted again.. sigh" we always have expectations or harbour negative thoughts that are beyond our control. yeah this is probably called TTMA (think too much already) maybe these negative feelings can be reduced. yeah but wad i guess is lacking in most relationships is communication. wouldnt it be nice, if u were a guy and u had a girl that u could share your laughter, secrets, and pain with, and when there are problems, you can solve them out easily by just being honest with each other and listening to what the other has to say.sadly, everyone just shoots their mouth off and game over.sigh.
["when you love someone but it goes to waste, could it be worse?" Coldplay - Fix you]
woulditbeenoughtounderstand. whywefeellostinaworldsosmall.ifonlylovecouldfindusall. starinoutofthewindow.allthereisisourhopelessfate.
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